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gillesstoop: Als zwanger worden niet vanzelf gaat, kom je soms bij acupunctuur uit

Zwanger worden lijkt iets vanzelfsprekends. Tot het dat ineens niet meer is. In het begin voelt het vaak nog ontspannen. Je stopt met anticonceptie en ziet wel wat er gebeurt. Maar na een paar maanden verandert er iets. Je gaat meer letten op je cyclus. Je gaat tellen. Je gaat hopen.

En als zwanger worden langer duurt dan verwacht, komt er langzaam iets anders bij.

Elke maand hoop ik weer dat het lukt. En elke maand is er weer teleurstelling

Veel vrouwen herkennen dit. De kinderwens wordt minder vanzelfsprekend en meer iets waar je mee bezig bent. Soms dagelijks. Soms op de achtergrond, maar altijd aanwezig.

Wat ik vaak zie bij vrouwen die al een tijd proberen zwanger te worden, is dat het niet alleen een lichamelijk proces is. Het raakt ook hoe je in je lichaam zit. Waar het eerst iets natuurlijks voelde, kan het steeds meer iets worden waar je grip op probeert te krijgen.

Je gaat zoeken naar wat je anders kunt doen. Voeding, timing, onderzoeken, trajecten. En ondertussen neemt de spanning vaak ongemerkt toe.

Sommige vrouwen merken dat ze slechter slapen. Of dat ze meer in hun hoofd zitten. Anderen voelen zich sneller gespannen of merken dat hun lichaam minder goed tot rust komt. Het vertrouwen in het lichaam kan langzaam wat verschuiven.

In mijn werk als acupuncturist zie ik regelmatig vrouwen die in deze fase zitten. Vaak zijn ze al een tijd bezig. Soms zitten ze midden in een medisch traject, zoals IVF of IUI. Soms nog niet, maar voelen ze wel dat het anders loopt dan gehoopt.

Wat opvalt, is dat vrouwen zelden met één duidelijke klacht komen. Het is vaak een combinatie van spanning, wachten, hoop en vermoeidheid.

Sommige vrouwen komen dan bij acupunctuur terecht. Niet als eerste stap, maar juist wanneer ze merken dat ze behoefte hebben aan iets extra’s. Iets dat niet alleen gericht is op de cyclus, maar ook op hoe ze zich voelen in hun lichaam.

Acupunctuur wordt vaak gebruikt als aanvullende ondersteuning bij een kinderwens. Tijdens behandelingen wordt gekeken naar het geheel: hoe iemand slaapt, hoe de cyclus verloopt, hoe het lichaam reageert op spanning en hoe het herstel gaat.

In de praktijk merken sommige vrouwen dat hun lichaam wat rustiger wordt. Dat ze beter slapen, minder gespannen zijn of zich weer iets meer in contact voelen met hun lichaam. Dat betekent niet dat alles ineens verandert of dat er garanties zijn. Wel kan het helpen om uit de constante ‘doe-stand’ te komen en weer iets meer ruimte te ervaren.

En misschien is dat ook wel een belangrijk onderdeel in deze fase. Niet alles is maakbaar. Maar hoe je in die periode zit, maakt wel verschil.

Voor veel vrouwen is de kinderwens niet alleen een wens om zwanger te worden, maar ook een periode waarin ze zichzelf op een andere manier leren kennen. Soms met onzekerheid, soms met veerkracht.

Het helpt om daarin niet alles alleen te hoeven dragen.

Over de auteur

Gilles Stoop is acupuncturist en werkt samen met zijn vrouw Yuhsin Chung in hun praktijken in Utrecht en Rotterdam. Hij begeleidt al ruim 20 jaar vrouwen (en mannen) met een kinderwens, stress en hormonale klachten.
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